8 signs you’re dating a narcissist
8 signs you’re dating a narcissist… trackback from post: narcissus flowerAs said by the marvelous Dr. Dre, “Yeah, I’ve been there and I’ve done that.” In a Greek fable, a young man, Narcissus, drowned because he stared too long at his reflection in the pond and fell in love with it. These days, it is a little harder to tell if your loved one is this self-absorbed, with so few ponds on campus. Dating, sleeping with or even being friends with a person who is completely and totally absorbed in themselves will never yield good results for you. You will always be competing for attention with another person: their innerself. How can you tell if your lover is a narcissist? The following article contains excerpts from the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders fourth edition, and my own personal views on the subject. This article is not meant to diagnose any type of disease; it is only meant to aid a person in determining if their loved one has narcissistic tendencies.Narcissism is described as a pervasive pattern of grandiosity (in fantasy or behavior) and need for admiration and lack of empathy. A narcissist is not satisfied with merely being acknowledged for their accomplishments. They must be celebrated and worshiped by peers. They may even exaggerate achievements or talents in order to receive accolades for things they have never done. Saying that they were drafted for the NFL when they were in high school, claiming they were a computer hacker for the CIA at age 13 or lying about winning a beauty contest are all grandiose statements that are most likely untrue. They are being told to try and gain attention and prestige. They expect to be recognized by all.This person lacks empathy and is unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings or needs of others. This person cannot relate to anyone but themselves, and while they demand constant attention and acknowledgement of their needs and thoughts, this person cannot comprehend others. They often set double standards of behavior. For example, a narcissist may act out …
