Pilar Sanders Talks About Divorce, Abuse, Lies & Part-Time Parenting

Pilar Sanders has been in the news recently for the bitter, messy and drama-filled divorce trial with her now estranged husband Deion Sanders. The former model who was raised in Elmira, New York met her future husband, Deion Sanders on the LL Cool J show, In The House. A year later Pilar moved to Dallas to be near Deion and the following year, in 1999, they married in Nassau,Bahamas and have three children together. In April 2012, the couple made headlines following a domestic dispute at their home in Prosper, Texas, a suburb of Dallas. Pilar had been arrested for domestic violence after allegedly attacking Deion.

Deion used national television and social media to put the couple’s business in the street while Pilar sat on the sidelines and let her name be dragged through the mud.

I recently had a chance to sit down with Pilar who wanted to tell her side of the story and share with our readers that domestic violence is the same whether you’re married to a famous athlete or a regular Joe.

It seems that when you do a search online about Pilar Sanders, nothing but negative news items appear, what can and/or are you willing to do to make people see you in a positive light?

Negative, only because now of the divorce and everything surrounding it. Most divorces aren’t happy occasions. Neither is mine. My divorce just happens to be with an ex pro baller (football and baseball) and is filled with abuse, lies, and part-time parenting. All I can do is be me. I’ve been honest, tried to be private and always been a good mother (putting my children first). Anything negative about me came from lies and or from those who don’t know me. But I can’t worry about that, all I can do is live my life the best way I can. I cannot worry about things that I can’t change or have no control over. Everyone is going to have an opinion whether it’s based on truth or lies, regardless, that’s life. My truth is my life whether it is accepted or not.

If you never married Deion, what would you be doing?

Acting! I was a Ford model and an actress before and when I met Deion. I was standing well on my own 2 feet. I moved to LA and was making a pretty good name for myself when I met him. In addition to me being an actress, I’m sure I would be much further along than I am now in building my career and life around a business in Health, Fitness & Beauty. READ ON…

If you can do anything in life over again, what would it be and why?

Hindsight is 20/20! That’s no lie. I would have definitely remained focused on my career a lot longer before getting married and taking a hiatus. I would’ve still had my babies, but I would also have Pilar. You know what I mean? I would be the successful actress, model, the savvy entrepreneur, then the wife and mother – in that order. Now I’m going backwards, back to my roots of acting and will finally utilize my savvy business skills for myself and not focus on building my partner. I’ve learned that we as women can’t stop doing ‘us’ for the sake of taking care of our husbands. As women, we are natural nurturers, we are known to put our stuff, our career and lives on the back burner to make sure that our men are “on point.” I wouldn’t do that again. I now know I have to do Pilar FIRST and everything else will fall into place.

As a mother, would you say you are a good role model for your children?

Absolutely! I believe role models should indeed be those closest to you and who do the most for you. I believe hands on mothers, as myself, have so much influence on our babies. It’s amazing. We shape their thoughts, behaviors their character; we give them a point of reference for love, respect and life in general! There’s nothing more precious and needed than mommies.