1. You Have No Compatibility: You would never even think to respond to someone on Match.com who wasn’t compatible with you, so why would you do it in person? Dating and relationship coach Rosalind Sedacca suggests that you stay away from the lure of opposites. “Long-term relationships develop through finding experiences that you share with one another,” Sedacca explains. “Those become the foundation that build into respect and a deeper, long-lasting love. Opposites may find initial attraction due to curiosity and stimulation, but differing perspectives on life are more likely to interfere with relationship success in the years ahead.”
2. Differences Cause Problems: Sure, you may find it charming that your new man is in awe of your success as a businesswoman and that your successes surpass his own, but soon, his lack of ambition will start to wear on your motivated personality. Psychologist Carl Hindy, who specializes in marriage and relationship counseling, says this can become the biggest problem in a relationship. “You cannot have those qualities of the other person by dating or marrying them. Too often, the differences ultimately lead to different outlooks and different reactions, as well as communication difficulties and resentments.”
