A whopping 45 percent of wives experience a sharp drop in marital satisfaction after the birth of a baby. No surprise there. It’s hard to communicate effectively when you spend all of your time standing in front of a changing table and also when you are getting as much sleep as your average bullfrog. Here’s what’s surprising. Did you know that moms who attend religious services regularly tend to fall into the 55 percent of those who stay happy post baby? Well, it’s true, and it speaks to the importance of social support and connections.
Feeling bored now? In nine years, you’ll be plotting divorce, finds research. Fortunately, marital boredom is easy to cure. Just try a new activity together. Novelty of any kind breeds excitement, conversations, and closeness. As I learned recently, even a juice cleanse can spice things up. So shake things up. Sleep on the other side of the bed. Join a wine tasting club. Don’t wait for excitement to find you. Seek it out.