First, how is he defining “good sex”? Perhaps he is not that experienced, because then he should know that good sex doesn’t necessarily mean mind blowing simultaneous orgasms all the time as we see in movies, but can also be about emotional connection or heightened sexual arousal without orgasm too. And guess what-that can be good too!
It is true that people’s sexual styles are not always compatible. But this is where communication can come in really handy! It is important to communicate with your partner about what it is you like and what feels good and pleasurable. If he was not giving you direction, then that was his first problem. Each individual is turned on and enjoys something different. If he didn’t think you were all that in the sack, he has to consider what he was giving you to work with! You are not a mind reader. Great listeners make great lovers.
