My sister wants to get married and have a family. She has been dating a wonderful man for the past year; he is kind, fun, laid-back and it is so clear that he lives for her, in fact, he has told her he wants to marry her. Despite her happiness, she is plagued with doubt. Is he the one? There are a few things that don’t feel “right” to her. Intellectually, he’s not on her level, nor is he as financially successful. His career path is not that promising. These things are not important to everyone, but they are important to her. As much as she loves him, she is tired. She works like a dog. I know she would love to be able to have kids and spend some time staying home with them. But in her current relationship, she couldn’t have that. She knows that if she marries this man, she will have to be the breadwinner. She is not saying she won’t do that, but she is admitting that the sound of that is exhausting.
