He left you, and you know he’ll never find anyone as amazing as you. So how do you cope…? By convincing yourself it was him and not you? What lies do we tell ourselves after being dumped?
1. He Needs to Work on Himself; Men Mature Slower Than Women
While this is true about the maturity, was he showing signs of being too immature for you? Chances are he just wants to work on himself..with someone else.
2. He’s Gay.
Not saying there are no men on the down low, but would you really feel better to know you man left you…..for a man…?
3. He Wasn’t Ready for Commitment
Did he not commit to you? The truth may be, you two aren’t compatible, so he’s ready for commitment, just not with you.
4. He’s Still in Love With His Ex
Surely the signs would’ve been there if his ex was a problem. Was he calling her? Sneaking around? Bringing her up for no reason? No? Then don’t torture yourself worried about his past, because you’re now his past too.
5. My Looks Have Changed
Well, did they? If they did, was it so drastic that he’s not only no longer attracted to you, but not willing to support you while you find your way back? Did you really gain weight, or are you bloated? Most importantly, are you comfortable in your own skin? If so, you deserve someone who finds you beautiful as you are. And if you’re not, your only focus needs to be getting to that place. Love you before you love someone else.
6. He’s Focused on His Career
Was he not focused on his career when you two became serious? I would hope so! Did he get a new position at work? Switch careers? If you were willing to stick it out with him and he didn’t want you as a support system…then you already have your answer.
Bottom line is this: it didn’t work out. That means Mr. Perfect is still out there!
