“The Sexy Wife Coach” Lora Lucinda Anderson wrote an open letter to Janay Rice, wife of Ray Rice.
Dear Janay,
I am in fear for your life. Earlier this evening, while enjoying dinner with my boyfriend, my heart broke when I looked up at the TV and saw a woman being battered and then casually dragged out of an elevator and dropped face down like a dead piece of meat. And all by a man who claims to love her. That woman was you.
My mind quickly flashed back to a time in my life when I was married to a violent abuser and I was often beaten down to the floor, having to cover my head to protect myself as I was being pummeled. I stayed in that abusive relationship for six years until I finally summoned enough confidence, inner anger, and a small amount of love for myself to escape. Well, to be honest, I left for the sake of my 2-year-old daughter. It took many more years for me to learn to love myself again.
My boyfriend’s reaction to the video of your assault was, “You know she stayed for the money.” And then our waiter piped in, “She even married him the next day so she wouldn’t be able to testify against him.” But, I know why you stayed, Janay. I believe that you stayed because you love Ray and because you have a child together and because you believe that life is better with him in it than without. Perhaps you still think you can change him, and perhaps you believe that if you just change that one thing about you that sets him off, everything will be ok.
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