Top 8 Things that Will Ruin Your Relationship
by HybridMom, 6 hours 39 minutes ago
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1. Money: #1 issue couples fight about – money
– Money is valued differently – one is a “saver” the other a “spender”
– Money represents different things for each person in the relationship – know the differences and respect them. Your partner’s view is not “stupid” or “ridiculous”
– Communicate your individual attitudes and values about money to each other
– Keep money in its proper perspective in your relationship – money represents a commodity – not love
2. Lack of Effective Communication
– Just because we have said something doesn’t mean we have communicated anything
– The SINGLE biggest issue with communication – the false belief or impression that it has taken place
– Must have “active listening” for effective communication, i.e., the ability to listen to what your partner has to say without your own “hidden agenda”
– Choose words carefully and with sensitivity – the more emotionally charged the topic of discussion- the more important it is to do this
3. Commitment
– Lack of commitment to the value of yourself
– Lack of commitment to your partner
– lack of real commitment to your relationship
– Are you committed enough to all of the above to do what it takes to make your relationship work?
– Do you provide the level of commitment to your partner that you are asking from them?
4. Failure to Prioritize Relationship
– Do you put the time and effort required that shows your relationship is the most important thing in your life?
– Schedule date night/ mornings/afternoon – anytime that is exclusively committed to your relationship – no interruptions/no excuses
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