4 things you don’t need to tell your boyfriend
- By Lauren Romano – Fri May 6 2:20pm PDT
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Some women start dating a guy and think honesty is always the best policy – for the most part it is – but not always. Even though it might make you feel better to tell him certain things and you may think he needs to know or it’s not a big deal for him to know, you might need to get over that – it may not be in his best interest or in the best interest of your relationship. Guys can be sensitive, especially when it comes to their girlfriend, so telling him tidbits of information that have no current bearing on your relationship could make him feel insecure, paranoid, turned off, upset or just plain angry. There are quite a few things your boyfriend should know in honor of full disclosure, but there are others that are best left unsaid.
Personal Care Habits
I don’t know many men that are excited to know how their girlfriends remove and rip hair from their body, how they cover up blemishes or what they do to look the way they do. Let’s face it ladies, there’s some details that even we shudder or cringe at even when it has to do with our own body. At some point, he’ll probably see you sick, use the bathroom after you used it an hour after you ate beans and likely knows enough about a menstrual cycle than he ever cared to – save him the details about as many other personal care habits as possible.
Sex With an Ex
Guys want to think they’re the best you ever had out of all the partners you’ve had. They don’t want to hear that another guy is “bigger” than they are or that another guy made you see stars. It could give him a complex – he may assume that you never were and never will be as sexually pleased as you were with a past partner. This topic has come up before with more than one boyfriend and I tell them the truth – “Sex with each guy is different. It doesn’t matter what it was like with them because you’re the only one I’m sleeping with.”
What Guy Friends You’ve Had a Thing For
Almost every woman has a guy friend they still talk to that they’ve had a crush on – or a fling with – at some point in the past. Tell your boyfriend who and when it was and expect a potential slew of problems. He could suddenly become jealous when you want to see or talk to that friend, be paranoid over things between the two of you like he never was before and could even question your friendship with your other guy friends. Spilling about a little crush from the past could be asking for big trouble.
You Still Think About Your Ex
If there’s one thing that can get under your boyfriend’s skin, it’s your ex. He may have never even met him or barely knows anything about him, but just the term “ex” can make him twitch and think “threat.” Now imagine what would happen if you told him you occasionally think of how fantastic your relationship was with your ex or how amazing he was in bed – it’s even worse if your boyfriend knows the guy. The more your boyfriend knows about your ex, the more it can screw with his head – the less you say, the more problems you may be able to avoid.
While it’s important to be honest, certain tidbits of information are best tossed onto the “ignorance is bliss” pile. Just because he’s your boyfriend doesn’t mean he actually deserves or needs to know everything. If you cheated on him with your ex, yes, he should know; if you occasionally think about that “thing” your ex did in bed when you two were together, stay tight-lipped. The information you tell him may only have a negative effect, so before you spill it out when you can’t take it back, think twice about telling him.
