6 ways you’re coming off as unapproachable

Women are always told that body language is the most important way to seem approachable to guys, and while that’s true, there are also other factors. Some may not even realize what they’re doing is essentially putting a wall between themselves and potential partners. I’ve been guilty of doing a couple of them myself. Coming off that way isn’t going to help you meet anyone, but with simple adjustments and habit changes, you’ll be able to attract more people to you by exuding positivity. If you’ve been going out, but haven’t been able to meet anyone, some of your actions may be coming off as unapproachable without you even realizing it.

You’re blocked by technology

Although the time spent going from place to place is an opportunity to listen to music or catch up on calls, you may be making yourself unapproachable in the process. Guys are rarely going to approach you when you have headphones on or you’re talking on the phone. Those are two of the methods people intentionally use as a deterrent when they would rather not interact with others — I’ve used them myself. Many guys know this, so rather than risk bothering you, they’ll usually pass up on the chance. If you’re interested in meeting a new guy, put the technology down once in awhile to create a chance for a guy to approach you.

You’re with a group

If you’re standing in the center of a group, you’re putting yourself in a situation where a guy is likely going to feel intimidated to approach you. Try surrounding yourself with only two or three people at a time rather than a group of four or more. Guys are much less nervous about talking to you if there’s not a plethora of people who are going to stare him down and scrutinize him as he tries to start a conversation.

You’re inaccessible

I’m one of those people who will go somewhere and bounce around from one part of the place to the other. If you’re looking to meet a guy, this typically doesn’t work in your favor. In order for him to approach you, you have to stay in one place long enough for him to do so. When you keep moving around and looking busy, a guy doesn’t want to feel like he’s interrupting you. Stay in one area for awhile before moving onto the next so you can give a guy an opportunity to approach.

You’re with a bunch of guys

When you want to meet guys, avoid showing up with a group of them. It may seem obvious, but you’d be surprised how many women go out with one or two female friends and several guy friends and are surprised when they don’t meet anyone. Considering how protective some guys can be about their female friends, a guy isn’t going to approach you while you’re with them. For all he knows, one could be your boyfriend, and no one wants to end up with a black eye at the end of the night.

You’re staring

There’s a big difference between giving a guy a glance or two and staring at him like you’re picturing him naked. You’re not going to see him naked if you creep him out by fixing your gaze on him. Glance at a guy, catch his eye for a few seconds, smile, then look away. Better yet, if you see someone who grabs your interest, go and talk to him instead of waiting for him to talk to you. Regardless of your choice, be conscious how long you’re looking at a guy, otherwise you could blow your chance before you even really get one.

You look miserable

So I’ll admit, there were a couple of times I went out and was exhausted or didn’t feel well and, despite my best attempts, I’m sure I didn’t have an excited expression on my face. There are going to be days where you won’t have a cheery expression, but guys want to talk to women who look happy, not those who look miserable and, therefore, unapproachable. Smile, laugh and look genuinely pleasant and, on days when you’re feeling a bit down, go out with great friends who are going to lift your spirits and have you laughing in no time.

Some focus so much on not giving off negative body language by not crossing their arms or having their hands on their hips that they forget to just relax and give off a positive and happy vibe. Don’t work to impress those around you. All you have to do is be approachable so others can see you for the vibrant, interesting person you already are.

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