Why You Should Wait to Say ‘I Love You’
What’s the Rush?Picture this. You’ve been dating a new guy for a few weeks. Things are going amazingly well and you can’t stop thinking about him. You connect on so many different levels and you just seem to get each other. He is exactly what you’ve been looking for in a man and, not only that, he exceeds your expectations.
In other words, you’re in love with him and you’re wondering if you should tell him exactly how you feel. But before you go saying “I love you,” there are a few things you should know about saying these three little words too soon and why it might be a good idea to hold your tongue for a while.
Saying “I love you” too early puts intense pressure on the relationship. Suddenly, you aren’t just dating anymore – you’re in love. It’s more serious and often times, more limiting.
Along with love comes expectations that a new relationship might not be able to live up to. Love implies forever; but how do you know that you want to be with someone forever if you haven’t even been together for a month?
Dating should be about working on getting to know each other and, most importantly, having fun. When you throw the word “love” into the equation, you force yourself and your partner to look ahead to the future. This may cause you to stop paying anymore attention to living in the moment and enjoying where you are in the present day.
Love can’t be rushed, no matter how soon you want to say it. It’s important to keep in mind that just because you say it, doesn’t mean your relationship will rise to the occasion.