3 Ways To Be More Trusting In Relationships
If you know that being open or truthful about who you are is something you want to work at, cool, I’m also on the same path! Here are some tips that have helped me become more intimate in my relationship:
1. Leave important and feeling-based conversations strictly for phone calls & in-person dates: When I need to discuss my feelings about a particular issue that is bothering me, I try my best to leave it for a phone conversation or in-person date. Why? Text messages can twist what feelings or points you are trying to communicate. We tend to be more bold and ruthless behind a keyboard. Intimacy is not just about expressing oneself it’s also about connecting with the other person’s perspective and experience.
2. Share your inglorious stories: We don’t feel comfortable opening up to people who are unable to relate to us and how better to relate than to share a story of when you messed up royally. If you are judged upon said story, well then you know you are unable to form a bond with that person, you will never know unless you open up. To be honest is to be safe. When we are honest we make it safe for others to be honest as well. As women we often get caught up in the beginning stages of dating trying to be these perfect domestic or model-citizen creatures when we are simply human, so act like one.
3. Make the first move: I use to have this hang up, I would only kiss a man when it was time to greet, leave or you know *creepy wink*. All while having this hang up, I secretly wanted to give and receive spontaneous kisses. Why had my life become so mechanical and what was holding me back?! Instead of figuring out why I just did it, I would give kisses when I felt like it, I rub his chest, head and arms. I started to trust and be open. Of course this has to be reciprocated; make sure this is reciprocated please. This light form of intimacy can often lead to a better result in the sheets because you’re constantly stimulating each other with a shot of passion here and there.
