Mirror his gestures
Mirroring is not doing gesture for gesture what he is doing. Act similar to him and then begin to change your body positions from defensive to positive. Open up your gestures and see if he follows your lead.”
Make eyes at him
A sincere flash of your pearly whites will elicit a positive response, especially if he’s been feeling neglected.
Picking fluff off his shoulder, or even pretending to, will subconsciously strengthen his trust in you.
Look up at him
If you see that your husband is having a difficult day, Driver recommends a technique called “body leveraging,” which involves purposely setting your eye level below that of the person to whom you are talking.
Give him space
A man occasionally needs his alone time, especially if he’s moody or stressed out — even if those feelings are unrelated to anything you’ve done.
Listen at an angle
“Whenever you’re listening to him, tilt your head slightly to one side and nod,” says Driver.
When he’s happy or celebrating, you’ll want to show him that you share in his joy.
“Keep your gestures open and expansive,” says Talley. “Constricting your nonverbal behavior sends him a message that you aren’t happy for him. Keep your arm movements located from your waist to your chin line; it keeps his eyes focused on your face, the most expressive part of your body.” For example, try reaching out to squeeze his arm or hand.
Take a hike
Feeling tension in the air?
“Get him up and moving, whether it’s a stroll down the street, a restaurant date, or even as simple as relocating from one room to another,” says Driver.
“The act of moving our body frees our brain from stress and allows our minds to be more open.” It’s an effective way to dissipate tension after an argument, even if your man doesn’t recognize that you’re interacting with his subconscious.