What’s Your Positive Percentage?
When it comes to how you two interact on a regular basis – from your texts to your dates to your sex and random convos – how positive are things? Does everything turn into a fight? That’s when you need to be concerned. “Researchers can watch couples and know in the first 90 seconds with 96% accuracy if they are going to break up,” says Kelly Campbell, PhD, associate professor in the department of psychology at California State University in San Bernardino, California. “It’s all a matter of positive versus negative interactions from a percentage perspective.”
So, basically, if you and your honey have good, loving, happy, healthy interactions 80% or 90% of the time, you can probably work through most of the BS that comes up. Once that number starts creeping down, and you get to only the 60% positive mark, it may be time to reconsider why you’re together. Not sure how much is good and bad? “Keep a journal and write down some interaction descriptions on a daily basis,” says Campbell. “Once there is a certain percentage of negative interactions, that’s when one may feel more inclined to go and see what else is out there – because once you think, ‘Hey, I’m a good catch, I could do better,’ that’s when it might be time to do just that.”