Are Women Really Meant to Marry?
Whether you lean in or not, most women want it all when it comes to a man. So when you find him and become his wife, you’ll likely feel like your life (or at least the romantic part) couldn’t be better-until you realize something seems to be missing: your libido.
According to a small study of married women published in The Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy, wives tend to lose sexual interest long before their husbands do. And about 9 percent of women 18 to 44 report being distressed over their low desire, 2008 research found. Before you worry, hear what experts believe may be messing with the Mrs. mojo and how to keep yours going strong long after the honeymoon is over.
What women want has changed.
Holy matrimony isn’t what it used to be. The female’s perspective of a good, strong union is more complicated than ever-and, in some cases, bordering on unrealistic. Psychotherapist and Mating in Captivity author Esther Perel summed it up best in her incredibly popular TED Talk, “The secret to desire in a long-term relationship“:
“Marriage was an economic institution in which you were given a partnership for life in terms of children, social status, succession, and companionship. But now…we come to one person and are basically asking them to give us what once an entire village used to provide: belonging, identity, continuity, transcendence, mystery, awe, comfort, edge, novelty, familiarity, predictability, and surprise all in one.” Oh, is that all?
