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We often try to correct our wrong before we have actually apologized for our actions.  If we feel our partner should not have been hurt by our actions, or our actions mirrored one of their own behaviors from the past, we find it difficult to express empathy or remorse to our partner.  Saying “I’m sorry” is not an acknowledgement of guilt, it is a validation of our loved-one’s feelings.  If you truly want to move forward and bridge the gap with your partner, you must first validate their experience of you.

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3. Commit to a behavior change. 

The most challenging step to having our apology accepted is our follow-through with a behavior change.  Gaining insight into your partner’s emotional make-up, via steps 1 and 2, will help inform how you can better relate to your partner in the future.  Behavior changes can be small or large, but are most effective when they are mutually agreed upon.  Remember, your credibility is only as good as your follow-up!

Getting past hurt, anger and resentment can be a challenge for families and couples. If you are having difficulty managing your relationships, I encourage you to learn more about counseling services in your local area designed to assist you in learning and implementing communication techniques that improve understanding and strengthen emotional bonds!

 

Visit the BlackDoctor.org Relationships center for more articles. 

Cheryl Donald, LMFT, MBA is a Federal public health official and licensed psychotherapist with a private practice in Brooklyn, NY. Ms. Donald specializes in the treatment of depression, anxiety, trauma, & relationship difficulties; follow her on Twitter @BrooklynMFT and like her Facebook page athttp://www.facebook.com/BrooklynMFT.

3 Ways To Get Your Apology Accepted  was originally published on blackdoctor.org

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