As women, we sometimes land ourselves in relationships that aren’t favorable. Many women accept and embrace the affections of men who have multiple women or are even married, relationships with no title, sex without romance or emotions, abuse, mistreatment and downright disrespect. Women are emotional creatures with the need to feel love and affection, and this innate need will sometimes cause a woman to accept things that she typically wouldn’t allow if led by her sense of logic.
If you are a woman that has fallen for a man who treats you less than what you would normally allow, don’t beat up on yourself. Love (or lust) can sometimes numb our logic and it happens to the best of us. Want to know how to avoid the trap of falling for anything just to say “I got a man”? Take a look at these solid pieces of advice and start on a journey towards better treatment and value of self.
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Know exactly what you want and deserve.
If you don’t know what you want, then you will accept anything. Before going into any relationship, make a strong determination about what you want the relationship to be, how you want to be treated and what you will and will not tolerate. Think about how you would treat yourself and know what you deserve. If you don’t set standards for yourself from the beginning, chances are you will accept whatever he has to offer and it may not be the treatment that makes you feel loved and appreciated.
Have a positive sense of self worth.
Having a sense of self and knowing the level of standards you will allow yourself to be held at is critical to how you will be treated within a relationship. Setting an expectancy of respect, loyalty and honesty is a sign of a woman who values herself highly because she understands the importance of being treated well and not accepting anything less. A woman who holds to these standards won’t accept just any type of treatment for the sake of saying “I’m in a relationship.” If you haven’t determined your self worth, then it’s time that you do so. Before anyone else can value you, you must first value yourself. You can’t expect a man to treat you with respect if you don’t respect yourself. Relationship expert Matthew Hussey recommends that women learn to love and value themselves by treating themselves as they would their best friend. Bring love to yourself to raise your awareness of self worth.
Don’t give away your power.