No one likes to get into arguments or confrontations within romantic relationships, but too often women give up their authority within a relationship to avoid what is inevitable in reality. In an ideal situation, there would be no disagreements or arguments within a relationship, but when two people from different backgrounds and life experiences decide to live out their life paths together there is bound to be a butting of heads. Giving away your power doesn’t insure that arguments won’t happen, but it does set you up to be walked on and looked over with little regard. Remain an active member of the relationship and voice your opinion when things are uncomfortable. A healthy relationship is a compromise, not a dictatorship.
Find happiness within yourself.
Too often people place their happiness within the hands of someone else, believing that their joy in life and sense of completion will only arrive when that special someone made specifically for them finally reaches their doorstep. Alas, this is the incorrect way of thinking because if happiness is rooted in another, it will always be a fleeting feeling that is dependent on that person. Finding happiness within yourself is such a crucial step in avoiding the trap of falling for anything because often times women remain in unhealthy or dead in relationships because of the fear of being lonely and alone. Being happy with being alone and knowing that you are responsible for your own happiness will make you more attractive to others and less likely to accept any type of treatment. After all, knowing what makes you happy will give a man a roadmap to your heart if you let him in.
Every woman at some point in her life makes the mistake of allowing treatment that is not up to her ideal standards, but the most important thing to remember is that this behavior can be changed. If you are currently in a relationship that is unsatisfactory or have been in one in the past, now is the time to take the steps to stop settling and avoid it in the future. Remember: know what you want, know your self worth, don’t give away your power and seek happiness in yourself first.
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Glamazon Tyomi is a freelance writer, model and sex educator with a deeply rooted passion for spreading the message of sex positivity and encouraging the masses to embrace their sexuality. Her website, www.sexperttyomi.com, reaches internationally as a source for advice and information for the sexually active/curious. Follow her on Twitter at @glamazontyomi.
4 Tips To Stop Settling For Less In Your Relationships was originally published on blackdoctor.org
