Your heart is beating fast and you have a range of thoughts and emotions that seem to paralyze you from head to toe. These emotions can range from “Why me?!”rage to just an overwhelming “WOW!” Before you can deal with any of that you are faced with the question “What do I do?” when you suspect that your mate is cheating.
While most are in a state of preparation mode for Valentine’s Day, some of us are dealing with infidelity and or the possibility of infidelity. Either way it’s not easy.
Unless you are the paranoid, overanalytical type I would have to lean toward if you think that your mate is cheating, then 9 ½ times out of 10 something is going on to make you feel that way. Intuition is there for a reason and if we listen and are in tune with it, it speaks to us in all of our love languages.
So what do you?
Most will say that they know exactly what they would do, but do you really know before you are faced with the situation? Should you become passive and hope for the best? Do you go straight into snap mode and accuse? Do you stalk and go through phones, pockets, emails, etc?
You can ask your mate is something going on that you may not be aware of. You could also ask flat out “Is there someone else?” Or, you could cover all bases by asking “Are you seeing, dating, having sex with, kicking it, participating in oral pleasures with, hanging out with, mentally, physically or cyberly seeing someone else?”
The bigger question is actually for the individual who believes that their mate may be cheating. They should ask themselves “Why do I feel this way?” to make certain that they’re not feeding into possible insecurities that they may have.
If insecurities are not on the table then the next question is “What will confirming this information do for me?” Is it validation to leave? Proof to snap, crackle and pop?
The realest question of all is once you have the information and confirmation that cheating is occurring, what’s next? Most people are NOT prepared for the “What’s next?” question. Can the relationship be saved? Are WE willing to do the work to restore what was? Was something missing that lead to the cheating? What did I do? Can we fix it? Will I ever trust again? All of these questions are real questions that you will wonder, ask and demand to have answered.
The Real Questions To Ask If You Think Your Mate Is Cheating was originally published on blackdoctor.org