On common misconceptions and hardships:
Transgender women aren’t much different from cisgender women in how they love and date, according to Sidney, who opened up to me about her experiences with dating. “Me being transgender doesn’t affect the quality of my dating life,” the entertainer explains. “In fact, I have guys all the time that want to be in a serious relationship with me, but I’m too focused on my career to have time for a serious relationship. Dating isn’t difficult for me.”
Many cisgender individuals raise concerns about transgender women being deceptive in their approach to men who may not know their original gender, but this is a common misconception that Sidney claims is the worst. “The worst assumption made about transgender women and relationships is that we all have to “deceive” a man into believing we are cisgender women in order for him to be with us, when in fact it’s the complete opposite.” As far as when she feels the time is right to reveal her gender, Sidney has no issue with making it known if a guy doesn’t already recognize her from her Internet fame.
“I get a lot of different reactions when I reveal that I am transgender,” she offers. “The most common reaction is disbelief that I’m even transgender, and in their words it doesn’t change anything because ‘I’m bad’. But there are those rare cases where some guys begin to question their sexuality because they find me attractive and they feel it changes them because I’m transgender.”
Dating While Transgender was originally published on blackdoctor.org
