First, a quick summary of the original Horsemen:
CRITICISM is when you attack your partner’s character or personality rather than complaining about a specific instance where they have failed. Criticism often begins with the phrases “You never…” and “You always…”
DEFENSIVENESS is exactly what it sounds like — instead of acknowledging that your partner just might be right about something you’ve done, you point out something they did earlier.
CONTEMPT is a set of (mostly non-verbal) behaviors that communicate your, well, contempt of your partner: sneering, sarcasm, name-calling, eye rolling, mockery, condescension, etc. — you get the idea.
Finally, STONEWALLING is when one partner simply tunes out of an argument — usually after a bunch of criticism, defensiveness, and contempt — and refuses to engage with their other half.
So here are four things you can do in bed to avoid a Gottman-predicted divorce…
1. Replace CRITICISM with FANTASY FULFILLMENT….
Read More.. Source: http://www.yourtango.com/2015280219/4-behaviors-predict-divorce-and-how-avoid-them
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