(BlackDoctor.org) – Regardless of how much in love you are, just about every couple falls into a predictable, eventually boring, pattern of doing the same things all the time. This is an inevitable thing when you spend so much time with someone, but it can make many couple wonder if there’s something wrong with the relationship.
Most of the time, however, all couples need is a small change in routine to keep things interesting.
“There’s an old saying along the lines of, ‘If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you always got,’” says Lisa Daily, author of Stop Getting Dumped! “If you can’t stand the thought of another football game, or another weekend of cuddling up to pizza and DVDs, then come up with something else to do.”
1. Do Things The “Wrong” Way
Yes, you normally need 7 to 8 hours of rest on a work night. But who’s to say that, occasionally, you can’t go to a club and stay out ‘til 2am…on a Wedesday? There’s something about rebelling a little that can instantly alleviate tedium — plus it can be a bonding experience for couples.
So if you think your relationship has been weighed down, ask yourself, “What do I really want to do?” and follow your impulses with your beloved. Go ahead and make ice cream sundaes for dinner! As long as your actions aren’t illegal or harming anyone, these moments will remind you that your love life can take some interesting twists and turns once you stop caring so much about doing things the “right” way.
2. Get Out of Town
Busy schedules can force couples into almost unpleasant, fast-paced ruts where they zoom right past each other. When this happens, agree to take a little break together to catch your breath, let time slow down, and remind yourselves of the fact that you never have to stop getting to know each other.
“Sometimes it feels like the world will stop spinning if we stop what we’re doing for one minute,” says Daily. “The truth is, it won’t. Life will go on, even if you take a few hours off.” Even if you don’t have an entire weekend for uninterrupted “us” time, take little time-outs to recharge your romance on a regular basis.
Daily suggests setting an unbreakable lunch or dinner date every week — mark your calendar, if necessary. Or substitute separate workouts at the gym to take a long walk or hike together — you may be surprised where your conversation leads or what new tidbit you find out about your partner!