3. Embrace The Unexpected
Surprises are the cornerstone of keeping a relationship interesting because they show your sweetie that you don’t take anything for granted — and that there’s more to you than meets the eye!
So keep an eye out for any opportunity: If your sweetie mentions a play he or she wants to see, buy tickets on the sly and slip them in a pocket or purse with a note saying “You, me, and a comedy club on Saturday?” Or, just tell your sweetie to keep a certain date clear for you — then don’t explain what you’re doing. The anticipation will keep your honey wondering all week what it could be and add extra zing to your plans, whether it’s reservations at a new restaurant, a night camping in your back yard, or going back to the place where you shared your first kiss.
What you’ve planned doesn’t really matter — when it comes to surprises, it’s truly the thought that counts.
4. Dream About The Future…Together
Do the two of you want to own a home one day? Maybe start a business? Even if you’re not quite ready to take that leap, talking and dreaming about the future can not only bring you closer together, but can bring you even the smallest step closer to realizing those dreams.
A relationship that’s static can definitely feel stagnant, but that’s easily fixed by setting some goals together. Just ask yourself (and your partner) about what something you dream about doing. Then do something small, such as window-shopping for a home, or playing with puppies in a pet store even though you’re not prepared to take one home yet. Do anything that keeps you in touch with that dream.
Even new couples can adopt a sense of direction. Maybe you both fantasize about flying to Cancun for a long weekend on the beach. Try browsing guidebooks together or set up a “Cancun Fund” where you each contribute $20 per paycheck. “Even if your big plan is very far away, taking baby steps together can bring you closer to your goal,” says Daily. “And to each other.”
Following the above tips, as well as coming up with a few of your own, can help you grow closer to your partner – as well as feel more fulfilled and happy in your own life.
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Break Out Of Your Relationship Rut was originally published on blackdoctor.org
