How many times do you find yourself running in circles! Just because you are on the move doesn’t mean you are moving in the right direction. Stop idling and get out of your own way with these tips from author Tara Stiles.  

1. Stop the sabotage. We’ve all sabotaged ourselves at one point or another. Whether it’s by being judgmental toward ourselves or others, overindulging in food, alcohol, or drugs, or knowingly holding ourselves back. First step is to identify our method of sabotage, so we can begin to understand the behavior and stare it right in the face until it dissolves.

2. Meditate. The universe is within us. We forget that and make up realities for ourselves that we are small and insignificant. Meditation brings us back to our natural state of consciousness. We need to quiet our mind to become aware. Follow the breath not the thoughts. The breath will take you there. And “there” is YOU. It’s been waiting for you to come back for a while.

3. Be nice. We have to be nice to ourselves and others in order for life to run smoothly. This is just how it goes. A fun little game of the universe we like to sometimes call karma. If you are mean to yourself you’re more likely to have a bad day. If you are mean to others it will come back to you sooner or later. If you are mean to the planet we won’t have a planet to live on. It’s simple. Be nice. Take care of yourself and others.

4. Keep good company. Be careful who you hang around. If your friends like to complain a lot and are full of bad behaviors, and you realize that you want to change your life, than it is time for a shift. First, be nice to your friends. If it’s helpful maybe drag them to a healthy activity instead of a bar, or try being open about how you feel and see if they are up for living a more productive life also. It might be hard or embarrassing, but it’s worth a shot. Friendships naturally shift over life. We have different friends for different times in our lives and sometimes it’s not the best idea to hang on to a friendship to try to make it work if it’s an unhealthy connection.

5. Keep going. “If success were easy everyone would be a champion.” — Nadia Comaneci.