The following are a few mistakes that some women make when they first begin dating a man before a relationship has been established. As always, feel free to chime in and add on your own mistakes and opinions. Listen up ladies.
1. Talking About Past Relationships
Just as you would rather him refrain from comparing you to the love of his life that he lost, he does not want to constantly hear about yours. Stop talking about your ex Jermaine and how he cheated on you with the slutty girl that lives next door to you and now you can never trust another man again. Granted, at some point, if you do have trust issues, you can express that to him but focusing on your exes and their drama early on can be a turn off for anyone.
2. Expecting Too Much Too Soon
A big mistake. Expecting too much from the man that you are dating can be a big turn off. There is nothing wrong with you letting him know how you expect to be treated, respected and courted. The problems begin when you expect him to pay your rent after dating for 3 weeks. This is an unrealistic expectation. That is where the difference between wanting to be courted turns into an unrealistic expectation. The man does not know you. Plus, do you really want to be with someone who is that naive? If you do then don’t get mad when he then expects some a** in return. Also, being too clingy too soon is a warning sign for most guys. Unless they are into the clingy crazy chicks. Sadly, there are guys who are.
3. Expecting A Relationship After Sex
Just because you slept together, does not mean that there is a relationship established. You would think that most grown women have this concept figured out but there are still some lost souls. They think that their vagina is the end all and be all and that their sex will be enough to entangle him without him actually having any authentic feelings for you. Granted it might get his attention for a short period of time but your sex will not guarantee his interest or a long lasting relationship if one at all. It also will not necessarily make him take you seriously if that is not a part of his plan. If you know in your heart that you want to be in a relationship with the person that you are sleeping with, as corny as it sounds, don’t sleep with him until you have one established. Why settle and hope for the best?
4. Establishing Yourself As A Doormat
Getting dressed at 3 a.m. to go see him because he FINALLY called when you know that you have to be at work by 8 a.m. is not a good look. Don’t settle for being his door mat and establish that he has all of the control while dating you. Never make yourself available to him at his beck and call. Being his door mat might entice him for a short period of time but most men like women with their own lives, minds and opinions and most importantly that can tell them “no” sometimes. As silly as it is, men like the chase.