Looking back, Terry says she wishes she would have handled parts of the divorce differently. “I wish that I hadn’t been so compelled to sue, because the anger lingered and it wore me out,” Terry says.
Terry: When I was ready to run him over, it wasn’t because he was gay. I never hated his guts because he was gay. … And that was one reason why I sued, because I hated the idea of being known as a homophobe. Jonathan deep down inside knew I wasn’t homophobic. I have too many gay and lesbian friends. Too many.
Oprah: We all know why you were upset. Any reasonable person knows you were upset because you were betrayed. He lied. You were lied to.
Terry: He lied.
Oprah: Have you forgiven him?
Terry: Oh, definitely.
Jonathan says a huge burden was lifted when Terry dropped the lawsuit. “It was hard to go through all this litigation with her,” he says. “I’m truly sorry [about] the way things ended.”
Jonathan says he had a long way to go after his 2005 interview with Terry. “Now I’m a much better person. I’ve grown a lot through this whole experience,” he says. “I try to be a better friend to my family, my friends, and if I ever have a boyfriend or a partner, I’d be a better person to them.”
Today, Jonathan says he’s comfortable in his own skin. “I came from a culture [where] you suppress your feelings and you’re not open to seeing different orientations, different sexualities,” he says. “Now I’m embracing my sexual honesty, my truth.”
Jonathan also says he and Terry are in a better place. “She accepted me for who I am,” he says. “We’re not best friends, but we are friends.”
With her divorce behind her, Terry has come full circle with her new book, Getting to Happy. Terry says the Waiting to Exhale sequel was inspired by her breakup with Jonathan. “I realized that there are a lot of women out here in America who are 40 and upward who have experienced betrayal and deception as well,” she says. “I was more concerned about women who are in my age group who allow this kind of devastation to just ruin their present.”
Going forward, Terry says she’s still able to trust men.” As my mother would say, one bad apple doesn’t spoil the whole tree.”
After all the drama, Terry says she’s living up to the title of her book. “I think I’m lucky,” she says.
source: Oprah.com
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