For once, Tyrese was thankful that mirrors steam up when you take a shower, so he wouldn’t have to see his reflection. Admittedly, Tyrese only managed to break free from being complacent when he met Will Smith, a man who had the ability to recognize what Tyrese describes as a “lost soul.” Smith taught Gibson an important lesson, the actor says for the mag: in order to change your life, you need to change you friends because they influence everything that you do.
So Tyrese did. He started going to the gym and looking to do better. “It’s very simple. You walk up to a guy and say, ‘Yo, my man, how’d you get your arms so lean and ripped like that? Let me jump in with you on a set’.” Tyrese says. In order to change his diet, he started hanging around people who ate healthier than his old set of acquaintances. This way, he has made the switch from fried calamari to tuna and salad for lunch, and he no longer eats fried foods or stuff that he knows are not good for his health.
“We men have to put our pride and egos aside and just say, ‘You know what? I need help,’ ” Gibson says. “Bring something to the table. To somebody who has the keys to whatever door you’re trying to go through, say, ‘Look, man, I have five keys of my own, but I’m trying to figure out how to get these other keys.’ “
Iron sharpens iron. Ask, learn and collaborate with men who are healthier, more financially secure or smarter than you. Successful men aren’t symbols of your inferiority, they are examples of what you can become as well.
Tyrese: “I Needed Help” was originally published on blackdoctor.org
