Back in the spring, fans were shocked to hear that Halle Berry had parted ways with Gabriel Aubry, her model beau of nearly four years and dad to her daughter Nahla, 2.

But the lovers in question weren’t blindsided at all. “Gabriel and I had long dealt with it,” Berry, 43, says of their breakup in the new issue of Vogue. “We were done. And we were on a good foot, and we had decided what we were going to do for Nahla, and we were able to say, ‘This will pass.'”

The Oscar-winning actress claims there is “no discord” and “no fighting” with Aubry, 34. These days, she says, “we are back to how it was before: living apart, raising our daughter.”

“You realize you are not meant to go the distance with everybody,” she explains of their failed romance. “We were meant to bring this amazing little person into the world. And I think that’s why we came together. And because of that, we are going to be together forever, all three of us. We are a family until we are not here anymore.” Indeed, the trio has been spotted out and about at Disneyland and elsewhere months after Berry and Aubry’s split.

Berry adds that she and Aubry are “still friends, we love each other very much, and we both share the love of our lives. And we are both 100 percent committed to being the best parents we can be. And while it was not a love connection for us, he was absolutely the right person to have this child with because she is going to have an amazing father.”

“I’m not done with love, but I refuse to settle,” twice-divorced Berry declares. “I am a hopeless romantic. And I won’t stop till I get it right.”