Lessons From ‘Big Brother’: Sexting Isn’t Always Cheating
by The_Stir, on Fri Dec 10, 2010 2:02pm PST
Brendon Villegas
When I first heard Rachel Reilly from Big Brother 12 broke up with Brendon Villegas because he was cheating, I had to go with the whole girl power “good for her” response. Then I read why she was mad: he sent naked pictures of his pee-pee to another woman. Oh, Rachel, that’s not cheating. That’s just plain stupid.
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It’s certainly in worse taste than videotaping your apology to your girlfriend and posting it on the Internet instead of, say, going and chatting her up face-to-face (ahem, are you listening Brendon? That was a jerk move), but can you really consider this cheating? Let’s examine the details.
A sext — in this case a photo of a naked penis — does not mean there was any physical contact between the guy taking the picture and the cell phone recipient. If you believe there has to be actual penis in vagina action to be cheating (although you’re pretty rare), this doesn’t count.
If a sext contains pledges of love, intimate details, or anything indicating a person has some emotional connection to the recipient, it would indicate an affair of the heart. This wasn’t a love letter. It was a picture of the guy’s naked member. It doesn’t count.
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And finally, this was a picture of a penis. Have you looked at a guy’s penis lately? They are the man’s sexual organ, but there is not one sexy thing about a penis. They’re an odd color and an even odder shape. When not erect, they bear a striking resemblance to turkey neck. And then there’s that whole goose-pimply sack hanging underneath. I’ll take a photo of Taylor Lautner’s naked abs my husband’s abs any day. But if someone sends me a pic of their pecker, they’d better be sure there’s someone handy with a garbage can. It’s just not swoon-worthy material.
So Rachel, if you want to break up with Brendon, do it for the right reasons: because he thinks it’s OK to apologize on YouTube. And while you’re at it, tell him no one wants to see his penis.
Do you think sexting is cheating?
Image via TMZ
Written by Jeanne Sager for CafeMom’s blog, The Stir.
