Ladies AND Gentleman,
I want you all to ask yourself a very vital question. “Do I have standards for who I sleep with?”. This may seem like a straight forward question that you may have never thought about. On the other hand, this may have crossed your mind but you never physically do anything about it. Alot of us are set in our own ways. Normally, we will continue doing whatever it is that we do if it hasn’t produced a negative outcome even though it could be detrimental to your physical and mental well being in regards to your long-term health.
As humans, we do what feels right. We follow our heart and often listen to our hormones a little more than our brains. This is completely normal. On the other hand, giving into all the temptations in this world can be very detrimental. In regards to sex, excessive sexual partners can lead to unplanned pregnancies and sexually transmitted diseases (as if you didn’t already know that, I just had to refresh your memory). Clearly, nobody wants either of those things more than they want to fulfill their hormonal needs so why do it? Why put yourself in that position (male or female) where your health and future could be on the line?
This is why I have come up with the “Pre-Sex Checklist”.
The Pre-Sex Checklist is something everyone can create for themselves in order to take a step back and really look at their standards. Just grab a piece of notebook paper and write out 5-10 standards you wish to see from a man/woman before you take it to that level with them. It could also be things you want to see from yourself before you indulge in those activities. Anything goes here, the idea is just to get it down on paper and see what your brain comes up with. You may be one of those people who just absolutely loves your sex life the way it is. On the other hand, you could want that change in your life. Next time you think about going there with someone, whip out the checklist and if something is missing, don’t do it. The idea is to hold strong on your standards. Try it out, you may be surprised!
Since I am speaking so highly of this amazing checklist I might as well share with you some of my own ideas.
#1 We must be in a committed monogamous relationship.
#2 I must be on birth control
#3 You’ve got to want children because anything could come of this
#4 We’re both getting checked
#5 You better get used to condoms, because they’re your new best friend.
etc etc etc.
Need I go on? You get the idea. So, we have come to the conclusion that multiple sex partners is not the way to go, although if you still think it is AFTER you create your check list, I would love to hear about it. We have to get to a point where we can say “I’ve had enough of taking chances, I am going to take control.” No more of the risky one night stands with that guy/girl you just met an hour ago. No more day after pills. No more excessive trips to the gynecologist. Especially with women, this lifestyle (and I am sorry to bring up the double standard) is not cute. No real man will wife you or take you home to meet mother dearest if you gave it up too easily. Men, you are not getting off easily either. If you are out taking every thing with lady parts home the night you meet them, that is all you are going to find. (But that is for an entire different post)
Let’s just respect ourselves. Stay Classy Ladies and Gentleman.
Your Official WZAK Blogger: Micheala Whipple
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