Signs your relationship may not last
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No one wants to believe their relationship may not last, so to even acknowledge any signs that things may not work is not exactly on a list of pleasant thoughts. Being aware of what the signs are, however, can allow you to make appropriate decisions regarding the relationship, whether it’s making improvements, continuing with things as is, or ending the relationship altogether.
The intelligence levels are completely different
Those who want to have intelligent conversations with their partner may have a problem doing so in certain cases. Most will say they want someone who mentally challenges them in a positive way, but if the other person just can’t provide that, it can cause some problems in the future.
You have very little in common
Opposites attract is a phrase many have heard before and while that can work in the early stages of a relationship, it can become an issue rather quickly. Each person is going to get tired of doing at least a few of their hobbies without their partner participating with genuine interest. A couple doesn’t have to have everything in common, but they should at least have several hobbies they can converse about and participate in together.
You can’t converse with each other
There’s only so many times you can have a failed conversation or dead silence with someone before you just don’t even bother anymore. Your partner is one person you should be able to talk to about some of your hobbies and everyday things as well as be able to talk things out when there’s an issue. If you don’t feel you can talk to your partner, the relationship is in serious trouble.
You have vicious fights
It’s one thing to have an occasional argument with your partner — every couple has them — but to have vicious fights including excessive nastiness, name calling or physical contact is basically your relationship taking a nosedive. This goes along with communication — if there is an issue, both of you should be able to discuss it without an argument escalating into something nasty and filled with hateful words and actions.
You handle money differently
Money is one of the biggest things couples fight about, so if one of you is a saver and the other just focuses on spending, one has a bad credit history and doesn’t care to improve it or one doesn’t care about making an adequate amount of money to live on, there are definitely going to be severe problems. Before things get serious in a relationship, it’s vital to have a talk about finances so each of you know where the other stands.
Although the aforementioned signs create a rocky foundation for a relationship, it doesn’t mean that it’s automatically going to crash and burn. There are certainly ways to change things for the better if both you and your partner do the work to make it happen. Things won’t change overnight, but it can absolutely be worth it to at least try to make adjustments as soon as possible.
