User Post: I HATE Social Networks’ Impact on My Relationship!!!
- by Leggz, 16 hours ago
Everyone knows about Facebook, Twitter, etc. They are the latest ways to stay connected with friends and family without actually having to see them or call them. I know of very few people who don’t have an account with a couple of these social networking sites. I’ve never had much of a problem with them until recently.
I have been with my boyfriend for three months. He is sweet as pie. He cooks, he cleans, he sends good morning texts. He’s respectful, sweet, kind, has a great sense of humor. He makes me so incredibly happy. We both have facebook and Twitter accounts. We follow each other on Twitter, and we are Facebook friends. We don’t post on each others walls, or tweet about each other. And we haven’t broadcast our relationship all over Facebook. We have both come to the conclusion that our relationship doesnt need to be validated by the rest of the world. In addition, we have always been completely open and honest about everything. He has the code to my phone, I have his, etc.
One particular day, I was using his phone. I happened to peruse through his Facebook messages and was not very fond of what I saw. So I addressed the issue with him. We came to an agreement and that was that . . . or so I thought. Today I see a status that basically posed the question how do people (of the opposite sex) feel about him. The choices varied from wanting to have sex to wanting to be friends. I was not a happy camper. One again I address the issue with him. I told him I am not comfortable with females inboxing him that they want to sleep with him, be with him, etc. I also told him that at the end of the day he is with me, and if that is who he wants to be with then it shouldn’t matter how any other female feels about him. He basically tried to make it seem like I was upset for no reason and blowing it all out of porportion. He said it was just a FB game. He also stated he wouldn’t be mad if it was on my page.
Let me point out that we did not become Twitter buddies or Facebook friends until about a month into our relationship because social networks have a way of ruining people’s relationships. I was afraid stuff like this would come out. I’m very conscious of how I use social networking sites in a relationship because things can always be misinterpreted. This is not the first time I have had an issue with these sites.
My now ex boyfriend couldnt stay off of them, and eventually ended up cheating. I tried to stay with him because of our son, but I changed for the worst. I was insecure, always felt like I was second best to some other girl. I eventually became paranoid. I was always questioning who he was talking to, texting, where he was, who he was with, wondering if he was where he said he was. It got so bad I was hacking his email, Facebook, Myspace, Blackplanet, etc. It literally drove me crazy! I ended the relationship and got back to my normal self. My fear is that I don’t want that to happen with me and Drew. I trust him. I really do care about him, but I think he is being an insensitive jerk right now.
What do you guys think? Am I upset for no reason? How has social networing sites affected your relationships?
