5 Ways to Tell He’s the One (and 5 Ways to Tell He’s Not)

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 By Ali Wentworth, Glamour magazine

Is he the one? This woman knows! Actress and comedian Ali Wentworth spent years dating the wrong dudes-but meeting the right one, George Stephanopoulos, set her straight. When you’ve got a relationship as strong as Ali’s, you’re allowed to dispense your wisdom. Here’s her Mr. Right Checklist:

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He’s NOT The One if…He ogles other women.

When a man has a wandering eye, he’s still shopping around. Unless a woman is on stilts, there’s no reason to take her in for more than two seconds.

He’s NOT The One if… You feel like you’ve got to play games.

If he were The One, you wouldn’t be tempted to hang up before he answers the phone. You wanna talk? Talk!

He’s NOT The One if… He makes you feel insecure.

If he tells you that you didn’t wax enough or gives you a boob job for your birthday, then need I say it? It’s not the real you he wants.

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He’s NOT The One if… He just doesn’t get it.

There’s a scene in Annie Hall in which Diane Keaton and Woody Allen are laughing at something. Later he makes the same joke with another woman but she doesn’t get it. If every time you tell a joke, he says, “I don’t get it,” he never will.

He’s NOT The One if… He balks at “I love you.”

If you’ve said it-a few times-and he hasn’t? He doesn’t.

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He IS The One if…You are wildly attracted to each other.

He loves every inch of you (including the mole and nipple hair) and you him.

He IS the One if…You tell him everything.

You can confess the most intimate things to him and still feel safe. When a friend says to me, “Don’t tell your husband,” I always think, What kind of a marriage do they think I have? I tell George everything.

He IS The One if…You agree on the fundamental things.

You can vote Democrat and he Republican, but when it comes to ethics and morality, you have to be on the same page.

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He IS The One if…You’re the best version of yourself.

Like the campaign manager of your life, he makes you feel empowered, like you can do anything. He IS The One if…You respect him. If you admire everything the man stands for-how he treats people, how he views the world-he’s The One.

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