Flirting shouldn’t be retired once you’ve got the ring. We asked relationship expert Harlan Cohen, as well as real husbands, the best way to keep the sparks flying. By Anna Davies, REDBOOK.
1. Create a little mystery
“My girlfriend insists that the bedroom door stays closed while she gets ready for date night. Whenever she comes out ready to go, she always looks amazing. It takes me back to when we first started dating, when I’d always get so excited seeing her smiling at me as she came into the bar or restaurant.” – Avery G., 28, New York City
2. Expect some laughter
A guy might giggle when you pull out a move because it’s a break from the ordinary – not because he’s uncomfortable or weirded out. The best thing you can do, says Cohen, is to laugh along with him. Part of the fun of flirting when you’re in an established relationship is that it doesn’t have to be perfect.
3. Show some Facebook love
“I’d never admit it to my friends, but I love when my wife posts a sort of sappy Some E-Card on my Facebook wall. I love that she isn’t afraid to share her feelings, and I also like that it never gets too personal. If she used pet names or dropped a lot of details, that would be overkill.” – Chuck R., 40, Secaucus, NJ
4. Do what you do best
In the early stages of dating, it’s easy to adapt your flirting style to what you think your guy expects. Now that you’re together, you know one thing that impresses him about you is your individuality – so show it off, recommends Cohen. Whether that means giving him a nickname or surprising him with a handwritten haiku left on the counter for him to see when he comes home, showcasing your quirky personality is just one more way to remind him how much he loves you.