Joy! Joy! Joy!
If you’re like most people, you don’t want to put yourself out there very much after going through a divorce. Your fears might be running the show, insisting how you’re going to be financially ruined, or that your kids lives are ruined, or that you will never find love again. That’s bull$*2#! Your circumstances will change and with it, you will face new challenges. Some will be overwhelming, but you’re going to be okay.
You might not see a happy life beyond your current situation, but you can take charge of your experience by choosing how you will respond to what’s happening. You can cultivate joy and here’s one way: give your faith equal time. Yup, it’s that easy. The more victimized you feel by your divorce, the more you wil put faith in your fears that things won’t work out for you. You must cultivate your faith by giving it equal time. Here are some ideas:
- Make a list of all the things that bring you joy, or have brought you joy in the past, or that you have always wanted to do but haven’t.
- Take one joy-filled action each week — whether you want to or not.
Cultivating joy is like building a muscle. You might not know it’s even there underneath all of your sadness, and it may take a while to start to feefl different. Don’t give up! Contintue this practice until you notice yourself feeling joyful more often than sad. Then do it some more! Read More
