Was He My “Match” or My “Up In Flames”?

Perils of Online DatingI have to write about Jason because it bothers me….It bothers me that we met online….

But we were so attracted to each other’s profiles …him to my picture…me to his.

He winked first and I winked back (1st base)….then came his email (2nd base) ….then texting (3rd base)

He started to text the words “sweetheart”…. He would sign off with “xoxoxo”.

This went on for weeks…..we never met face to face…but we were still drawn to each other.

We planned on meeting….but we texted every day….several times a day….it was getting serious.

I began to care about the words on the phone…in the email…..I thought, “What does his voice sound like?”

He seemed to whisper sweet names to me daily through his texts…”xoxoxo, sweetheart, love”.

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Then….one day….he texted me when I was working….

He:  whatcha doing? 

Me: work

He: what do you do for work? 

Me:  therapist

If there was a way to have hesitation in texting…..there it was…

An awkward moment in time….all communication stood still….frozen…I thought… “uh-oh.”

He: “I need one of those.” 

Me: “me too!” 

Both:  “lol” 

Nothing for twenty minutes, then…

He: I’ll talk to you after work sweetheart”

Me: K

But…it changed after that… he didn’t text me that day….I had to text him, the next day …

Me: “What up boo”…

He:  “getting a light bulb”. I thought, “huh?”

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Me: “good luck with that lol…

He: ”oops…I’m getting a drink at the bar.” 

Me: I’m out with my friends getting a drink too!

He:  “I want to see you so bad.” 

Me:  “When are you coming up?” 

He: “send me  a picture.”

Me:  It’s dark in here, it won’t come out

 He: Oh please!  Go outside and take it

Me: Yeah right! 

He: I want to see you

Me: (I sent him an alien icon). 

H:  sent a smiley face.

I  tried to send an LG pic but…. It was too dark (told you).

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He: it’s too dark 

Me: told you

He: I know

Me: you’re still my boo

He: awww, you too

Me: ttyl boo

He: ttyl

He (at 11pm) “What’s up boo”

Me:….I didn’t answer….my phone was off…oopsy.  I didn’t get the text until the next day…..

The next morning…

Me:  good morning

He: (about an hour later)  I have to do something, ttyl, xoxoxo….never heard from him again!!

Ahhhhh…..I don’t even know him….never heard his voice….or met him in person…

What does all of this say about me…..really?  Forget about him for a minute.

I started to care about words in my phone…in my email….there was no person there!

I don’t even know if it was his real picture or if it was his name was really Jason….

I have to write about it because it bothers me….and I really cared (scary) …. I think of him now… a lot.

I wonder if that was his real picture ….and I wonder if that was his real name…

But the words came from him…”xoxoxo”…”sweetie” ….”I want to see you so bad”

And it felt sincere…his desire ….maybe…. It was nice… but maybe just a fantasy in my head.

Have you ever gotten wrapped up in a digital relationship? How soon before you should meet face to face, or at least send pictures and talk on the phone?

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