Making A Marriage Work After Sex Addiction
Infidelity, sadly is not a new or novel event within the course of a marriage. It is estimated that anywhere from 40 to 50 percent of men will cheat, and 23 to 30 percent of women will stray as well. Both men and women cheat. Cheating can implode a marriage, destroy families and stamp out trust which is a cornerstone of a stable marriage.
It is unlikely that most of us become adults without having had at least one experience of being betrayed in a relationship. It hurts. For most folks, the pain of either causing or being the recipient of heart-wrenching actions teaches emotional lessons that inform how we should act to avoid being hurt or hurting others. Some folks clearly don’t get memo and can’t stop or just won’t stop acting in selfish, destructive ways.
If nothing else, the media storm analyzing Tiger Woods trysts have highlighted the issue of sex addiction and the angst of being married to a sex addict. For the record, I don’t think that Tiger Woods is a sex addict, but one couple recently shared their story of living with sex addiction on ESSENCE.com
Could it be that “for better or worse” includes infidelity? Are we being too sensitive and adamant about how we would react when cheated on? Clearly, not every couple quits after an affair. In fact, nearly 40% of couples will stay together. Could you?
True sex addiction is a brain disease. The brain likes reward and will continue to push for behavior that fuels good and pleasurable feelings.