A generation ago, the old nursery rhyme of a relationship’s timeline: “love, then marriage, and then babies in baby carriages,” rang true for many. Today, a more pragmatic version might be needed – career comes first, followed by moving in together, then joint checking accounts, and maybe a marriage license.
With declining marriage rates, more women in the workplace, and careers preceding, superseding and serving as important criteria for marriage, the intersection of personal and professional life has never been more muddled. The supposed work-life balance seems more like a messy jumble of work, love and life that are all intertwined.
For starters, simply having a job is a large determinant for meeting a future spouse. According to a survey by YourTango and ForbesWoman last year, 75 percent of women said they wouldn’t marry someone who was unemployed; 65 percent likewise said they wouldn’t marry if they were not employed. And a Pew Research report suggests that 62 percent of men and women believe a marriage is strongest when both spouses work.
But that’s just the beginning. New research has finds that everything from the profession you choose to the commute you take can directly impact your romantic relationships. Here are five ways your work could be affecting your love life:
1. Commuting Blame it on time suck, sleep deprivation, or road rage, but if your commute is onerous, your relationship may be in danger. In a study of working households Sweden’s Umea University found that if one partner commute lasts more than 45 minutes, the couple is 40 percent more likely to get divorced, especially within the first five years of marriage.
Couples who commute in opposite directions may find themselves going their separate ways in their relationships as well. According to a study by Chinese researchers in The Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, traveling in the same direction to work, even if it’s at a different time and using a different method of transportation, increases partners’ satisfaction with their relationships. The study observed working couples in the United States and Hong Kong and suggested that traveling in the same direction metaphorically implies similar goal-directed behavior.
2. Working Toward Love If your looking for long-term love, marrying a dancer (exotic or otherwise) may not be your best bet. According to 2000 Census data compiled and compared by Radford University, dancers and choreographers had the highest divorce rate of any profession (43 percent). Others topping the list included bartenders and massage therapists (38 percent each), roofers (26 percent) and mathematicians (20 percent).
On the other end of the spectrum, careers in religion, nuclear engineering, public transit and optometry provided the most durable marriage. Only 4 percent of optometrists, for example, divorce. For those looking to increase their chances of finding a mate, career-networking site Excelle suggests personal finance careers for women and publishing careers for men, since each field has a high percentage of the opposite gender.
3. Careers for Love-making A Redbook survey of married women found that husbands who were artists were the best lovers; however, plenty of other professions boasted their own strengths in the bedroom. Engineers and architects were much more likely to make sure their wives were satisfied and were more than twice as likely as the average husband to introduce a battery-powered toy. Doctors excelled at romance, with 44 percent considered to be “constant cuddlers.” Lawyers, consultants and other finance professionals were most likely to want sex on a regular basis (42 percent), and salesmen were the most likely (14 percent) to do the deed daily.
By Drew Gannon, The Fiscal Times
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