2. How important is sex to you?
It’s a heavy assumption that sex is an important factor to each partner within a relationship, but in my experience of coaching couples through their sexual woes I often come across an imbalanced couple, where one person values sex greater than the other. In being completely compatible within a relationship, each person has to also be on the same page when it comes to the importance sex holds within the union. If one partner sees the value in experimenting and investing into having a well-rounded sex life and the other doesn’t agree, the relationship becomes one sided leaving one partner to feel alone or outcast in their sexual expression. Repression then sets in, leading to issues that can create resentment between partners and lead to dysfunction within the marriage.
Before saying “I do” and committing to forever, have a conversation about the importance of sex with your partner. If a major difference of opinion is revealed, then this is the moment to come to a common ground on how to make the sexual relationship work before things go south after the rings are exchanged. Speaking to a sex coach or a sex therapist is a great way to share your opinions while receiving solutions to possible imbalances within sexual relations.
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3. What do you like?
Assuming what your partner is into is the worst way to begin a lifelong sexual relationship. Assumptions are often based on previous sexual experiences with partners from the past, and when building a future with someone new those old ways of thinking about sex as they pertained to your situations in the past must be done away with and replaced with the standards of your new partner.
Having conversations about what each person desires sexually is healthy for ensuring the sexual relationship starts off on a clean slate with no baggage being brought into the equation from former lovers. Your husband or wife to be is your best friend and has agreed to share the most intimate portions of their being with you, so return the favor by opening up to what turns you on in the bedroom. The more you talk about sex the easier it will be to create a satisfying sex life to stand the test of time.
5 Sex Questions To Ask Before Saying “I Do” was originally published on blackdoctor.org
