Romance seems to be a concept of old world courting, but it doesn’t have to be. Women of today may not express exactly what they want when it comes to dating, but even in committed relationships a touch of romance is still desired. Every woman desires to feel adored and to know that her significant other can sweep her off her feet. So if you are the guy looking to get that old thing back or seeking to spark a new flame, here are five easy ways to infuse romance back into your relationship.
1. Craft an old fashioned love letter.
If it was good enough for Juliet from Romeo then it will definitely strike a good cord with your lover. There is nothing more nostalgic than putting ink to paper to pen an old fashioned love letter. You may tell your beauty how much you love her daily, but sending an old fashioned letter in the mail of dropping it in her lunch bag is yet another way to convey your feelings in a romantic way. Say it in a poem, tell a story of the first time you met or lay out plans for a romantic evening you have in mind. You don’t have to be an astounding poet or have the best penmanship in the world. Remember, it’s the effort and the thought that counts. Use special stationary to really make this a special delivery.
2. Date her like it is the first time.
Remember how electric your connection was with your lady when you first began dating? Well, it’s time to revisit your first moments to date her like it’s the first time. This is a great time to try role playing as an easy way to revisit all the reasons you fell in love in the first place. Approach your lover with a simple request: Can I take you out tonight? Make the date special and play it up. Put yourself in the mindset of when you first met her. Leave the house before her and greet her at the door as if you’re taking her out for the first time. Greet her with flowers, open her doors, pull out her chairs and cater to her for the evening. You will be surprised at how alive you feel when you date your love again for the first time.
3. Plan out weekly date nights.
The average person’s schedule can be very hectic, especially when a couple has kids to care for. A great way to reinforce romance on a weekly basis is to plan out a date night weekly. Choose a day and an activity that fits your schedules and get creative. An impromptu romantic date during the week can break up monotony and bring that old thing back. Remember, the only rules that apply are the ones that you set for you relationship.
4. Surprise her with sexy gifts.
Every woman loves to be surprised with a gift, especially when it speaks to her sexuality. It shows your interest in her and lets her know that you take interest in her sexual satisfaction. Add toys to her little black box, slip sexy lacey pieces into her underwear drawer or surprise her with a bouquet of flowers during her lunch hour with a little note attached that gives her instructions for the night ahead. Get creative with the gifts and remember to cater to her interests. Choose gifts sporting her favorite color or create a care package filled with wine, chocolates, candles and body care products to give her a romantic night in.
5. When in doubt, use candlelight.
Candlelight will always be synonymous with sensuality for its ability to cast whimsical shadows and create a romantic mood. Spark romance instantly by setting up a candlelit dinner at home or by using candlelight to create ambiance during bed time. Use scented candles in lavender, ylang ylang or sandlewood to help increase libido. Sometimes it’s the simple things that make a big impact.
Glamazon Tyomi is a freelance writer, model and sex educator with a deeply rooted passion for spreading the message of sex positivity and encouraging the masses to embrace their sexuality. Her website, www.sexperttyomi.com, reaches internationally as a source for advice and information for the sexually active/curious. Follow her on Twitter at @glamazontyomi and the all-new “Glamazon Tyomi’s Sex Academy” radio show here.
