If your sibling was married, and you are close to your in-law, they are like a sister/brother. Your sibling isn’t a good spouse and your sibling doesn’t want to fix their marriage but your in-law needs your help, do you help them?
A listener wrote in to Sam Sylk, radio host of The Sam Sylk Show on 93.1 WZAK during his daily 1 pm Reality Hour segment. And she say’s that her sister put her husband out and she wants to help. She needs to know if she is wrong to help him? And, should her sister be mad if she does?
Check out the blow by blow below:
My sister’s husband recently came to me to tell me that my sister is divorcing him after being high school sweethearts and married for over 10 years. Needless to say, her husband is very close to my family. He is like a brother to me. They haven’t had the perfect marriage. My sister still goes out with her single friends multiple times a week, never invites her husband anywhere unless it’s at a family event. She also has come home at 1-5 AM on week days and is secretive about where she has been. Neither spend any time together. But he recently brought up to her that he’d like to go to couples counseling because he loves her and wants this to work. That’s when she told him she wants the divorce. When I asked her about all this, she was very defensive and told me that she does not want to go to marriage counseling because she doesn’t believe it will fix their marriage. She’s not meant to be a “wife” and she likes being able to go out and do her own thing. She keeps telling me how she wants her husband to remain in her life as a friend and she’s also been trying to get my parents to allow her to move back into their home. Honestly, I want to support her in her decision…but I just can’t help but feel sorry for her husband. I am a strong believer in marital vows and I think she is making a heartless decision. Well on day my husband and I went out to the movies and we invited my soon to be ex-brother-in-law to go along with us, we went out for drinks after and we run into my sister and she totally flipped out on us and her soon to be ex, because he was talking to another woman and she is mad because she feels we set him up. And that because we were out with him we are taking his side over hers. She put him out but he has nowhere to go. Would we be wrong for taking him in?