Stealing her man: Is it worth it?
- Is stealing a man just a power trip?
Momma had a name for women who seduced men away from their wives – homewreckers! In her time, women like Elizabeth Taylor exuded a potent sexuality that women privately coveted for themselves but hated in others. Now we watch the sexual shenanigans of stars like Angelina Jolie and LeAnn Rimes play out shamelessly in headlines every day. Stealing a man isn’t anything new but this practice does carry a stigma, at least for the woman, that is hard to shake. So is stealing her man worth it?
It’s true that he can’t be “stolen” if he isn’t willing to go; however, it doesn’t have to be you that leads him away. Before you hone in on your prey, consider these factors.
You may never trust him. Your game plan was a success! You shot the arrow and won the prize. Now what? Once your hormones calm down, you’ll be ready to settle down. Can you trust him? If he cheated on her, couldn’t he cheat on you? Hmmm….
He may never trust you. The trust issue works both ways. Desire is a good starting point but beyond that, a relationship needs mutual trust. When and if he realizes how much scheming went into your plan to steal a man, it might turn him off. He may never trust you.
What comes around goes around. Some call it karma; others call it the universe. Whatever you call it, it is a proven fact that life always brings back to you what you have given to others. Unless you want a bumper crop of bad luck, you may not wish to sow heartbreak.
He may climb back over the fence. Yeah! You got him but will he stay? You never know – Romeo could be a chronic cheater. Perhaps it wasn’t your seduction skills that lured him away from his former sweetheart. He could just be making a repeat performance of past behaviors.
You will have to live with the guilt. Okay, tough girl, don’t forget the guilt factor. Before you start fluttering those lashes and sending flirty texts, consider the kids. Do you really want to make his kids hate you? Stealing a man doesn’t just affect the other woman. If children are involved, it is an emotional disruption that is hard to overcome.
The fantasy is always better. So, you got him and he isn’t what you dreamed. He makes weird noises when you make love. He has poor hygiene and doesn’t like cleaning up after himself. Worse, he thinks he should move in. Don’t be blinded by raging hormones. Enjoying the fantasy of him may be more satisfying than the reality.
