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5 Ways to Talk Dirty Without Being Too Freaky

By HowAboutWe | Love + Sex – Thu, May 17, 2012 12:33 PM EDT

Couples who are verbal in bed report increase levels of intimacy and satisfaction.

by Lauren Passell for HowAboutWe

Knowing how to talk dirty might seem, well, dirty, but it’s important for a solid relationship. Studies show that couples who express themselves in bed report increase levels of intimacy and satisfaction. Naturally, people are hesitant to do it for fear of going too far. But it’s great to give dirty talk a try, and with these tips from Modern Man, you can do it without being too freaky.

Just Describe (Naturally) What You’re Doing Saying things like “it feels so good when you’re inside me” or “I love it when you put your mouth there” are a great way to test the dirty talking waters. But they’re not over the top. You wouldn’t be put off if someone said those things to you!

Compliment Your Partner Everyone likes a nice compliment, whether it’s at a church function or between the sheets. Be honest about your partner’s body or performance, and let them know.

Use Your Good Words Don’t use super controversial language. You can talk dirty without cursing or getting too X-rated.

Give Instructions Telling your partner what you want is another safe way to get into dirty talk. “Touch me here” or “strip and climb on top of me” are sexy things to hear, but they’re not embarrassing to say.

Ask Questions If your partner isn’t speaking up, ask them if they feel good, what they want. And if they ask you a question about how you feel, don’t just say “good/yes/no”, get descriptive, get enthusiastic. This is wonderful, exhilarating sex! And getting a little dirty can make it even better.

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