Not to make sex seem like one more task on your crazy-busy to-do list, but like anything else worth taking care of—your body (the gym), your friendships (girl time), your pets (feed them!)—your sex life deserves its own time bracket. “Find and establish one or two or three times each week—when privacy is guaranteed and there’s the time and space—when it’s understood that, barring major world catastrophes, sex is going to happen,”
Make It an All-Day Event
No, don’t actually have sex all day—that would be exhausting (not to mention impractical). But the road from seduction to sex is not a five-minute shortcut, so you have to start the journey early. “If you’re hoping to have sex in the evening, start working on it in the morning,” says Eve Marx, author of 101 Things You Didn’t Know About Sex and Read My Hips: The Sexy Art of Flirtation. “Kiss goodbye before you leave for work—really kiss, not a friendly peck. Send a romantic or slightly sexy text during the day. Be sweet but tease-y.” Heightening sexual tension throughout the day instills a “pleasant anticipation” for what lies ahead, she adds.