One of the most important lessons I learned from being married is that you have to keep having sex. And the longer you wait, as you note, the more the expectations build into something neither of you can live up to. My advice is to figure out a way to surprise him with sex. Even if he’s tired, if you wake him up to have sex with him, he’ll appreciate it. It doesn’t have to be a “big production”—just make it fun. I’ve often felt like I was too tired for sex until my girlfriend (or wife, when I was married) started touching me, and then I immediately remembered how much I loved sex and intimacy and forgot all about how tired I was. I think it’s also important to maintain some kind of dating life, even if you have limited time together. Read More