5. It creates false hopes. Having a sexual relationship with an ex can result in spent time together dissecting their every word, looking for a glimmer of potential reconciliation. If one person is still hanging on to hopes of reuniting, ex sex will only create a false sense of hope. He or she will use sex as a way of spending time together. This is a definite set up for disaster because he or she is secretly hoping that having sex will help sustain the relationship.
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6. Comfort can threaten your health! If you were with your ex for a long time, chances are you are very comfortable sexually with him or her. This level of comfort can be very risky from a health perspective. Research has shown that condom usage is much higher at the beginning of relationships but tends to drop over time. Because of this level of comfort and familiarity, exes might be less likely to practice safer sex. This can increase risk for HIV, other sexually transmitted infections and unintended pregnancy, especially if the ex is having sex with multiple partners.
While sex with the ex might have been amazing, there was still a valid reason that the two of you decided to part ways and end the relationship. Once the relationship has ended, there’s no need to open up Pandora’s Box by knockin’ the boots. It’s best to keep things on a platonic level and move on with your lives because having sex with the ex is like waking up a sleeping giant. And let’s be honest, is the sex really worth bringing up all that old stuff again?
So now that you have read the reasons why ex sex may not be the best sex, you still may be determined to do it! If you are, just consider yourself forewarned, be honest with each other regarding your true motivations and intentions, and do your best to protect your mind, body, spirit and heart.
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Dr. TaMara loves nothing more than talking about sex! Her passion is deeply rooted in spreading messages about healthy sexuality. Dr. TaMara is a sexologist, sex therapist, educator and motivational speaker with more than 20 years of experience speaking, writing and teaching about sexuality. She travels the country helping individuals embrace and honor their sexuality. Dr. TaMara has published numerous books and articles. Follow her on Twitter, Facebook or Instagram, www.drtamaragriffin.com or www.projectcreatesafe.com.
6 Reasons Ex Sex Isn’t The Best Sex was originally published on blackdoctor.org
