The answer is beyond problematic and [insert sigh], as Graham suggests the abuse women endure happens because they put themselves in questionable situations.
“Jamie is my brother and I really can’t comment on what happened 16 years ago,” he said. “But there is something I want to say to these young ladies that allow themselves to go and be in a man’s room or whatever. Stop going to these hotels.”
This is when it gets really bad. Graham brings up Bill Cosby, a convicted rapist, casually, as if the dozens of women Cosby is accused of drugging and molesting are to blame for their own assault. “Same with Bill Cosby,” he said. “Stop going to their rooms.”
“Take your ass home. Don’t go into a man’s room,” Graham continued to scold under his Niagra Falls of a mustache.
While we shouldn’t expect celebrities, or their fathers, to be well versed on the nuances of rape culture and consent, victim blaming is one of the worst vestiges of misogyny. When it comes to consent, as Amber Rose once said, “I can be lying butt naked next to a dude a still say no.”
This language is extremely harmful in Cosby’s case. Andrea Constand, the woman whose case will possibly get Cosby sentenced to up to 30 years in prison, went to the comedian’s home because she considered him a mentor and wanted career advice. As long as ideas like Graham’s continue to be mainstream, it will be hard for women like Constand to be awarded legal justice in sexual assault cases, especially when it comes to cases involving women of color.
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