Are you willing to put up with the baggage of someone who is separated?
I didn’t think I minded dating someone who is separated…until I did. It’s been my experience that dating someone who is separated is a bad idea. I’d wait until those divorce papers are signed sealed and delivered before investing your heart and precious time into a relationship with someone. There are those people who have been separated for years and never plan on getting a divorce for whatever reason, that’s your choice and I respect it but I’m not going to date you.
Marraige didn’t stop Brad and Angelina, but would this have been different if they had met online?
If details of the divorce are still in the negotiation process then the soon to be ex can still have some power in YOUR relationship. I dated a guy who was separated for a little under a year when we’d met. He was so mindful of upsetting the ex-wife because he wanted to keep the peace for the sake of the kids, he was always very concerned about HER feelings, the result of this was whatever she said; goes. She was a reasonable dictator, I give her that, but our relationship was still under dictatorship. He allowed it.
If they’re recently separated then they need a bit of time to heal. I think, everyone who is getting out of a relationship needs some ‘me’ time to reflect and put yourself back together before venturing out into the battlefield.
You Versus The Soon to be Ex
I don’t know how many times I was compared to the soon to be ex-wife. Whether it was in a positive light or negative light I was always being measure against a real-life ghost. We couldn’t just be us, somehow it became about her. If they’re at least divorced, more time has elapsed and they’re less likely to compare. I’ll be honest though, I think everyone is guilty of this. It just seemed magnified to me when I dated someone separated.
Your Relationship Future
Getting married is off the table because they are still technically married. Your future with Mr./Mrs. Separated has to be put on hold in order for you to move forward with your own plans of matrimony. Maybe they won’t want to get married again after they’ve gone through the process of divorce. How do they know until they’ve actually completed the process?