Some people have really hard lives. It’s true. And often they need a lot of support and help. But when every single cloud in the sky becomes a reason to complain about rainstorms that haven’t even happened, it can be too much for any friend to deal with. All that negativity can be soul-sucking, and we kind of need our souls to be in top-notch condition. So if you notice that you’re hanging around someone who can’t seem to shine a ray of light on anything, ever, it might be time to hand them some rose-colored glasses and move on.
Good friends inspire you to be better. Good friends teach you ways to be better. Good friends are happy for you when you do better. They appreciate your success and cheer you on as you try to become your best self. They don’t feel threatened when good things come your way. And if you’ve inspired them to make a positive change in their life, they let you know what a good influence you’ve been on them. But if your “friend” has to one-up you every time you share some good news, or she sees your every accomplishment as a challenge, she may actually be a frenemy in disguise.